author Emilie Leeks,

What we completely miss, in our valiant attempts to distract, reason with, or otherwise move someone on from an emotion like grief, is that we each have a wonderfully efficient way of working through emotions. But that we do need to work through them, in order to come out the other side. We can push them down for a while, but ultimately they are still there, stuck inside our limbic brain.

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author Emilie Leeks,

I didn't understand that everything I felt around that time was ok. I held to the prevailing beliefs of stiff upper lip, nobody died, what's all the fuss about. We didn't know that everything we were feeling was not only normal, but acceptable. That it was ok to feel like we weren't coping. Now I know so much better, and if there's one thing I hope someone might take from this story, it is that whatever birth you have, whatever the outcome, you deserve to be allowed to feel whatever it is that you need to.

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author Emilie Leeks,

It can be so hard to tolerate behaviours from our children that would have been frowned upon in our own childhoods. This wonderful member of our Journeys in Parenting community shares with us about a behaviour which would be a challenge for most of us! She had taken some time to consider whether the behaviours really are a problem ('How will my child turn out if I allow this?!!') and to move to a place of working with her son through the behaviour, using fun and laughter - with great results!

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author Emilie Leeks,

Read this book if: You have, or work with, a child who appears anxious Things aren't moving forward for a child with regard to a particular issue (e.g. aggression) - even if the child doesn't seem anxious You want to better understand where anxiety comes from and what it can look like You want creative ideas of how to tackle anxiety in everyday life and through games and playfulness You have, or think you have, anxiety yourself!

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author Emilie Leeks,

All children are very likely to have to undergo some sort of unpleasant medical procedures in their young lives - some more challenging than others. This story describes our experience of getting our very sensitive youngest child through a set of injections at 4 years of age. We read up on ideas of what we could do to prepare him and tried different things out, and we also prepared ourselves for things being tough in the moment itself. Ultimately, he got through it very upset but listened to, and having been given enough time to reach a point where he himself could say he was ready.

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