author Emilie Leeks,

"But here's the thing: the reality is, I actually don't have anything better to do. Because actually very little comes higher up the priority list than their emotional wellbeing. Oh, it's hard for me to see that sometimes (often) of course. And it can be so hard for me to act with that in mind - often I don't; often I won't manage to quell those thoughts about how important the 'to do' list is right there and then, and that's ok too."

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author Emilie Leeks,

"All children will have to face uncomfortable challenges in their lives at some point. We don't need to put obstacles in their way so that they can 'learn to overcome them', but equally, we don't need to and shouldn't fix every difficulty they face either. We have well built brain and bodily systems to help us overcome problems in our lives, and getting to flex these 'issue-solving muscles' as we move through life is really important in developing a sense of resilience and ability to pull through when things feel tough."

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author Emilie Leeks,

What I'm talking about here is acceptance. Not the resigning-myself-to-my-fate, doom-and-gloom sort of acceptance, but instead a hopeful, forward-looking, getting unstuck sort of acceptance. If I can sit, in those supremely challenging moments, with the feelings that come up for me ('this is impossible' 'nothing will ever change' 'I've wrecked my kids' - whatever it might be), but not be simultaneously faced with the burden of having to change it right now, I can find a little peace.

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author Emilie Leeks,

Our youngest (2 1/2 years at the time of writing), is generally quite a cheerful, easy-going little boy, but he has never really liked having his teeth brushed - some days are easier than others, and if he is distracted you can sometimes get in and do it without him really noticing. But we really wanted to tackle the root of the problem - even though we didn't have a clue what that was!

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author Emilie Leeks,

"Lord but I am tired. I had planned a full hour of work this evening, once the kids were finally asleep. But instead I'm here at my desk, writing by the half light of the computer monitor, watching the words flow from my pen onto the page. I haven't written like this for a while. I've written some useful stuff, some pieces meatier than others, but the flow hasn't been there - something has been keeping me back."

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